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Mastering Inner Peace

“If there’s no inner peace, people can’t give it to you. The husband or wife can’t give it to you.

Your children can’t give it to you.

You have to give it to you”

– Linda Evans

The distractions, the many disappointments in life, the conflicts here and there, the turmoil all around you, the failures, the dashed hopes, the wars, the fading love, the stressful situations, the busy schedules, the fights, the fears, the conflicts within & without…There are so many reasons to loose your peace in life as life can be utterly unpredictable. You may not be in complete control of what happens around you but you are definitely in complete control of what happens inside you!  Knowing that you are in charge of the state of your mind and emotions is the first step towards mastering inner peace. For you to make any form of impact in life at all, you must be able to know what it is to create and maintain peace within yourself so that you can share it with others around you as well.

“First keep the peace within yourself, then you can also bring peace to others”

-Thomas a Kempis

The next step is to actually take responsibility for your state of being through conscious efforts. As such, you take back the power for people or situations to determine your state of being regardless of your experiences. Focus on your perception of events so as to avoid irrational thinking patterns about situations because such irrational thinking patterns will lead to irrational behaviour patterns that can rob you off your inner peace and on the long run, fuel negative emotions as well as negative outcomes. The secret here is not about controlling external events which is impossible because you can neither control people nor control what life brings but you can control your internal processes like your thought patterns and how you perceive events.

Everyone loves a peaceful person…

 “For peace of mind, we need to resign as general manager of the universe”

-Larry Eisenberg

In mastering inner peace, we should always remember to inculcate the following practical tips in our daily lives:

  • Learn to respond to situations rather than reacting to them
  • Learn to be mindful of your current state of mind and resolve conflicts quickly
  • Learn to let go off hurtful experiences
  • Learn to forgive easily
  • Learn to accommodate others
  • Learn to meditate on good thoughts
  • Learn to treat others well
  • Love freely

To adequately practice all of these, mindfulness meditation should become a vital part of our everyday lives. Through mindfulness meditation, you will learn to gain awareness and be in control of your thoughts, feelings and state of being. Furthermore, it will improve your relationships and your health in general. For more information about mindfulness meditation, kindly visit our website on www.mobilehealthconsult.org and follow me on twitter @DrMorayojimoh.

 

 


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Equipped For The Day!

 stEvery new day seems to bring with it a fresh load of events that can make us become stressed. Ironically, even events that should normally be enjoyed have also become stress provoking.

As earlier stated, the first step to creating new beginnings is to get to know yourself as it is the key to breaking the hold that stress may tend to have on you. Having gained a knowledge of yourself as well as your capabilities, you get to know what you can handle, what to prepare for, what you should avoid and what to do when faced with stressful situations.

The next step is to arm yourself with tools to relieve stress in daily activities.

One of such tools is mindfulness meditation.

What does it mean to be mindful?

It simply means being aware of what is happening within and around you at the present moment.

To meditate means to consciously direct your attention at something in particular with the aim of gaining a better understanding of it.

Put together, Mindfulness meditation involves a conscious effort of being aware of the internal and external occurrences in the present moment. That is, being aware of what you feel RIGHT NOW, what you think RIGHT NOW as well as your bodily responses to external stimuli.  It is a non-judgmental practice whereby you live in the present moment, not dwelling on your pasts or future, just the present moment.  

This practice involves focusing primarily on your breathing and practicing deep diaphragmatic breathing. This helps to direct awareness to the mind, enable you achieve a more coherent heart rate and become conscious of your current overall functioning.

Do you know when you are breathing in or when you are breathing out?

Most times, we are unaware of this, we just breathe because that’s what human’s do. This explains why it is a CONSCIOUS effort to become aware of “breathing in and knowing that I am breathing in” and “breathing out and knowing that I am breathing out”

By practicing mindfulness meditation daily,

You overcome stress and react more positively to situations

You become healthier physically and mentally

You become less impulsive

Your memory is improved

Your relationships get better and more fulfilling

You become more productive and eliminate procrastination

You become less judgmental

You become more confident

Peaceful-WomanOne of the best gifts you can give yourself is to become skilled at being mindful because you can take it with you everywhere you go.

Remember to live in the moment, it’s happening right NOW!

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Let There Be Light!

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“There is no doubt that creativity is the most important human resource of all.

Without creativity, there would be no progress and we

would be forever repeating the same patterns.”

  -Edward de Bono

 

Creativity is the ability to produce something new through imaginative skills. Gaining these skills is necessary to promote a positive change in our lives (at home, school and at work).

The more creative you are, the more productive you are!

Importance of creativity

  • Creativity stimulates innovationsyoung-office-workers-huddled-at-computer-300x199
  • It increases an individual’s intellectual capital
  • It brings about growth for individuals and organizations
  • It improves intelligenceadults
  • It improves brain functions
  • It boosts leadership and team workleadership and team work
  • It allows better problem solving skills
  • It promotes new ideashigh

 

 

Mindfulness as a tool to improve creativity

Mindfulness is a non-judgmental focused awareness of the present moment.

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  It allows us to be conscious of the emotions, feelings and sensations that occur within us momentarily. Being mindful is being creative. Mindfulness will help improve creativity in the following ways:

  1. Mindfulness enables us filter distractions and achieve focus which will promote creativity.innovative-brain
  2. There is more clarity when we are mindful. Therefore, the clearer our minds are, the easier it is for creative ideas to flow.
  3. Being an insight meditation, mindfulness allows us to look inwards and see things from a different perspective thereby bringing forth creative solutions.insight meditation
  4. With mindfulness, we become aware of our passion, strength and weaknesses and focus attention on our interests.
  5. With mindfulness, we are able to make more conscious choices and decision about life
  6. We are able to control consciousness when we are mindful.images%3Fq=tbnANd9GcSdCU90_tZXALxvgny1nTcfg03RrnsLhGpNGW-kJenTmiOz7QJlyQ

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Remember to try something new today to spark up the light of your creativity!

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The 3 “Be”s to finding happiness within

internal dialogueGetting this promotion will make me the happiest person ever”

“I just need to seal this contract and all my dreams would have come true”

“Obtaining a PhD degree will give me satisfaction beyond measure”

“I love him so much, I can’t be happy without him”

These  statements whether as internal dialogue (conversations we have with ourselves) or while interacting with others, reveal what gives rise to happiness in our lives . It is common place to attach happiness, fulfillment and satisfaction to achievements, material possessions or significant others. Some people tie their happiness to the approval they get from friends and colleagues while others derive their worth and sense of self from the acceptance they receive from society. These statements become beliefs which are often held on to so rigidly such that falling short of them could lead to emotional problems. It is opined that when there is a large inconsistency between who we are (real) and who we would like to be (ideal), anxiety may result. When we make our happiness solely dependent on others, then our fate and destiny may as well  be  in their hands. In a sense, we have no control over what we feel and we allow other factors other than ourselves determine our happiness.

Should this be the case?  What then happens when the storms of life throw you off balance? Is happiness a function of your environment or YOU?

While it is very important to have goals, strive for achievements and accomplish great things in life, they should not be held on to as sources of happiness and fulfillment. Life is, most times unpredictable and to leave our emotions in its hands would be unwise.

How then can you find the silver lining in the cloud?  Very simple! Open your mind’s eye to the secrets below to experiencing moment by moment happiness:

Thankful hands1. Be thankful: Have a heart of gratitude! By being grateful for the little things in life, the air you breathe, the food you eat, the water you drink, and your health,  you will find happiness. These seemingly little things make life count and remain the basis of other achievements,after all it would be impossible to be at work or function effectively to achieve any goal when ill. Don’t forget that a thankful heart is a happy heart.

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2. Be Cheerful: Smile, Smile and Smile. Work out your happiness from inside out. Research shows that facial expressions can influence emotions felt. So even when  you are not in a good mood, Smile! Even when your boss demands more than is required from you, Smile! When your account is red, Smile! When you can’t seem to figure life out, Smile. Just Smile!

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3. Be Mindful: By accepting your present status without judgment and by paying attention to the NOW, you can find happiness. You can be mindful each day of the week, by identifying 3 things that brightened your day and listing them out in a journal. You can also boost your mood by practicing mindfulness meditation. It is a beautiful and well rewarding practice that can boost positive emotions by guiding you into a calm state. You can find out more by registering for a FREE training on http://www.mobilehealthconsult.org. Here you will learn about mindful sitting, walking, eating and incorporating mindfulness into your daily activities.

Remember happiness is a DECISION that YOU are responsible for.

It is by Choice and not by Chance.

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Bringing Out the Best in Children

Preschoolers can be difficult to manage… The same may apply to all children. They have so much energy to throw around and getting them to sit still is much like a herculean task to not just parents but teachers as well. Children, especially the younger ones, use play as a medium to release tension  and ease as such when they feel anxious or uncomfortable, they try to engage in one form of playful activity or the other. However, you don’t want your child or pupils running about when you need their full attention.

So how can you get their attention?

How can you get them to sit still and learn?

How can you get them to be calm?

How can you help them regulate their emotions?

MINDFULNESS is the SOLUTION! 

child-meditation Mindfulness is being fully aware of this present moment, fully accepting it without judgment. It is paying full attention to your thoughts, feelings and emotions HERE and NOW. It involves deep breathing and calming techniques. These days, mindfulness has proved to be the answer to many questions. Enormous research has shown how mindfulness can help adults improve their brain function, reduce stress and enjoy better relationships. In recent times, researchers and practitioners have begun to focus on how this practice can be beneficial to children and adolescents in primary and secondary schools, children with cancer, learning disabilities, autism, etc. mindful childA number of schools in the United States are incorporating Mindfulness Programs into their school program- Mindful Program at Maryland High Schools. A recent research by University of Florida shows that stressful events in the environment can take a negative toll on a child’s mental and physical health which includes the onset of learning difficulties. As such mindfulness aims at reducing the effects of stress. Other benefits of Mindfulness include:

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  • Strengthening character development
  • Increasing focus and concentration
  • Improving  brain function
  • Improving sleep quality
  • Reducing stress levels and improving  coping ability
  • Inducing calmness and relaxation
  • Self regulation and control
  • Increasing their capacity for empathy and compassion

Mostly the same benefits that accrue to adults can be experienced by children ages 3 and above.

Mobile Health Consult is offering a Mindfulness program for students tagged “SMART MIND”. For more enquiries, consultation and procedure for enrollment, kindly log on to http://www.mobilehealthconsult.org/smartmind/

The only way to know what mindfulness is, is to experience it! Sign up for a FREE Training now on: 

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SPREAD the word! Be MINDFUL


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Let It Go!

“Father forgive them, for they know no what they do”. This is a quote from the Bible spoken by Jesus Christ to those who had just tortured and nailed him onto a cross. Regardless of your religion and whether or not you believe it happened, one thing can be rest assured, through all the pain, He died the most peaceful death. Why? Because He let go of any hate, anger or resentment against those who had wronged him.

Many times we hope for peace of mind and happiness, but we fail to identify the everyday factors that determine our mental well-being. A major factor is being unforgiving. Keeping anger and holding grudges is a very common self-destructive behaviour that human beings have adopted. Most times we rather delve in thoughts of how we were wronged and vengeance than just letting it go! We even find it hard forgiving ourselves when we make mistakes and wallow in continuous self-scrutiny. Holding grudges has destroyed many bonds between peoletting-gople and will continue to. Absolutely nothing positive comes out of being resentful. We are adversely affected mentally and it begins to show in our behaviours, learning and attitude towards life. Let it go! Free yourself!

Now letting go of grudges and resentments are not easy at all. We all deserve ‘justice’ to an extent. However we have to train ourselves to let go as soon as possible for the sake of our states of mind. Given a situation were you have little control over, such as an abusive driver cursing you before speeding off, why choose to analyze his or her obscene words and how they wound your pride (you might even consider chasing the car to abuse back) instead of immediately taking your mind off? One could ruin the rest of your day while the other wouldn’t. There are 3 steps that could help get rid of grudges quickly:

 

all_my_fault-021. Accept your feelings: Accept that you are indeed angry and or deeply hurt by what someone has done to you, or in other cases what you’ve done to yourself. Don’t try to mask this feeling by blame or channel it to negative thoughts about the person or yourself. Accept this feeling for what it is, an emotional response to a negative event and nothing more.

 

 

2. React mindfully: As we know for every action there is a reaction. More emphasis has also been laid on the reaction thanwiseman the action. How we react is VERY important in every situation. Mindfully reacting would be to aim to react in the best way for your mental well-being, which is normally to calm a heated situation or more generally focus on an immediate solution. Again, this would require mental awareness and self-control and our basic instincts usually drive us to retaliate. It could make it easier if you mention that he or she upset you or has hurt you, not so you get an apology because not getting one after such expressiveness could anger you further, but just to get it off your chest so you’re not brewing anything negative. The way you react either makes it significantly easier for you to let it go or significantly more difficult. Learn to react wisely.

 

move on3. Move on: Never raise the issue again. Try your best to forget it. Naturally the occurrence may flash in your head but do not invite the thought as it would adversely affect your mood. Take your mind off it as soon as possible. Let your mind be used to a state of positivity and you’d find moving on would get easier the more you try.

 

None of these steps are easy, especially in this fast paced modern world were everyone is so self-interested and getting more and more indifferent towards others. However, continuous practice starting from the moment you finish reading this article would help you to maintain a state of mind that most others would not be able to fathom. All because you’ve made a firm decision to let things go.

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Improve Your Thinking

Mental-health-007-300x180Our greatest friend and also our most devious enemy could easily be our own thoughts. It is the most sheltered part of our being and is who we really are. Both good and bad experiences shape our thought processes which in turn shape our perception of other people and the world around us. A majority of good experiences usually initiates more positive thoughts but bad experiences or stress could really adversely affect one’s thoughts and damage one’s view of life. More importantly, we find that our actions are usually extensions of our thoughts. Negative thoughts usually elicits negative actions. Therefore it is important that we monitor and pay attention to our thoughts.

Thought patterns

These are created when we have the same type of thoughts again and again, creating a habit of thinking in that particular
way. The battle we have withing ourselves have to do with these thought patterns because they determine how happy, confident and active we are each day. How ready we are to take on lifes challenges and hope for the future. This is when our thought patterns are in tune with our desires. As we know, sometimes our thoughts conflict with our desires. For example, someone who has a pessimistic view to life believes he or she is more likely to fail at a certain task at hand. However they are aware of how much joy they’d feel if they completed the task, but even this joy is usually not enough to eradicate their negative thoughts of failure. At the end of the day, if they let their negative thought pattern prevail, they end up quitting the task.No-Negativity-Stop-Negative-Thoughts-Coral-Springs-Counseling-Center

We all have the inner negative thoughts we have to battle when we set out minds to do something. Those thoughts that remind you of when you tried something similar in the past and you failed or reminds you of how you never get anything right or complete any tasks. These Automatic Negative Thoughts (ANTS), as neuropsychologist author Daniel Amen calls them, invade our minds usually when we are concerned about the outcome of an event to make us anxious by exaggerating the negative outcomes that could possibly happen and undermining our ability to deal with them. Negative thinking makes us focus on the negative things in life and magnify them while we filter out the brighter side. These negative thought patterns are especially difficult to get rid of because they are formed over time.But do not give up hope, they can be “killed” if we pay attention to our thoughts and realize that because we think something bad will happen does not make it true.

Thinking healthily

First realize that your mind is supposed to be your safe haven and your thoughts your best friend. It should be filled with positivity, encouragement and hope. We cannot control alot of external factors in our everyday lives, but we have, or should have, full control of our own thoughts.The quickest way to begin thinking healthily is to remove ‘absolutes’ from our thinking. Words such as ‘always’ and ‘never’ can be very harmful by causing you to give up and despair. “I always make the same mistake” “I can never do this” “I will be forever alone” Such thoughts encourage self pity, anxiety andpositive-people depression. Instead, though we realize our shortcomings, we should also acknowledge that we can indeed improve on them and be better. “I can never do this” should then become “This is very difficult, but since i have to do it i’m going to keep trying”. “I always make the same mistake” becomes “I make this same mistake a lot and i don’t like that, i’m going to try my best not to do so again”. This way you remind yourself that you can control the outcome and that you’re not powerless against the circumstances.

You also have to pay attention to your thoughts. Ask yourself what you think about the most each day and why. Trace the genesis of your most common thoughts and begin to break negative thought chains. This is a daily practice as thought patterns were also formed over time and are hard-wired in our minds. Each day as soon as we are conscious of a negative thought pattern we must redirect our thoughts in order not to further solidify such patterns. You’ll figure that there would be more room for innovative thoughts and ideas and a wider perspective in situations. Maintaining control over your thought patterns and having positive thoughts as much as you can is the basis of thinking healthily. 

Forgive yourself for your mistakes. Be satisfied with things you genuinely cannot change. Pay attention to your thoughts and stay positive.


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Conquering Bad Habits

A persons personality can be described as a collage of habits which the person expresses. We are our habits and our habits make us. The more good habits we have, the better people we tend to be. Bad habits, which are negative behaviour patterns, however, hold us back from reaching our full potentials. Bad habits, as we know, are detrimental to our well-being; they affect us physically (e.g smoking and its adverse effects on the lungs) and mentally (habitual lying, See our previous post The importance of being honest ). You can conquer your bad habits of procrastination, overspending, smoking or even nail-biting and picking your nose, but first you have to assess the origin of such habits and circumstances that trigger them.

Some bad habits, such as smoking and overspending, often start when a person is under a lot of stress. Gratification is often used in such circumstances to take our minds off the stressor. This may not sound so bad initially, but this is how most bad habits begin. The reason being that when we gratify ourselves, the pleasure we feel is initiated by the release of dopamine from from the limbic system to the  pleasure centers of our brain. Behaviours that trigger this release are then more readily reinforced as we naturally enjoy pleasure. The problem is it is more difficult to be moderate which such behaviours and they soon interfere with our lives and become bad habits.

Most of the time, bad habits tend to ease the ‘here and now’ and provide immediate satisfaction, not thoroughly thinking of the future consequences or effect they’d have on us. This is seen especially in procrastination, which most of us are often guilty of. So if you are serious about conquering your bad habits and you are ready to make a firm resolve, the following actions are necessary:

1. Increased Will power

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You have to make a strong resolution that you are willing to stop whatever bad habit it is. You have to remind yourself of it’s adverse effects in your life and that you can indeed control this behaviour. This is something you do daily to increase your willpower and subjugate the habit. Remind yourself that you are in control of your actions and not vice versa. You can even write it down in a diary or somewhere you can see it each day as a reminder. Stop for a second now. Close your eyes, take a deep breath and tell yourself, “I am in control!”.

 


its-possible-to-rewire-your-brain-by-breaking-out-of-the-way-you-naturally-think2. Re-wire your brain

Some say we are creatures of habits and this is due to the way our brains are wired. The more we do an action, the stronger the neural connections relating to that action. This is how practice makes perfect. However, this is also how we automatically or subconsciously find ourselves indulging in our bad habits, the neural connection is usually strong. An environment or situation, that your brain has associated with you carrying out a certain action, could even trigger bad habits. Therefore, you have to re-wire your brain. Associate healthier actions with environments or situations you used to associate with bad habits. This is something you have to do daily for about a month (some say between 21 and 28 days before a bad habit is broken) in order for new neural connections associated with the situation to be established.

 

3. Reflect

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Take time out to reflect on your actions and how they affect your body and well-being. Reflect on who you are now as a person due to this bad habit. Understand that at this moment you’re doing fine without it. Imagine the future consequences of your bad habits. The anxiety caused by too much procrastination or the disappointment you’d feel when you realize your broke again due to overspending. Whatever situation you can relate with. Stay relaxed and imagine how you’d feel if you finally got rid of this bad habit. Experience the momentary joy. Realize when your body begins to crave for this bad habit and what alerts your senses to it. Once you are able to do this, you’d find that you begin to know the initial physical and mental signs that often lead to you indulging in this habit again and can make a conscious decision to stop before you begin to consider it. (For a full mindfulness meditation experience go to  http://www.mobilehealthconsult.org/?page_id=1008)

 

4. Have a support group

Confide with your friends and family if you can and tell them about the difficulty your having is stopping this bad habit. support-groupYou’d find that some of your friends may be going through something similar or even the exact same problem. They may have other ways of dealing with bad habits that they could share with you. Meet with a group maybe once a week to share ideas and to find support. This is one of the most effective methods of conquering bad habits. Find people you can relate with and vice versa and help each other.

Moderation is key

Remember to do all things in moderation. Not too little and definitely not too much. Especially things that bring us pleasure. Discipline is very important if we want to prevent ourselves from bad habits. Be moderate.

If you try or you’ve sincerely tried all these and you persist in relasping, it is advised that you seek a psychotherapist as you may not just have a bad habit but an addiction.


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The Art of Goal-setting

If you feel you are not movingin the right direction in life, or you are confused about your future or you seem to be under-achieving then this post is specifically for you.

Everybody wants to be successful and it could be frustrating when things aren’t going our way or when we don’t feel in control of the progression of our lives. The answer is straightforward:

                                                                                                     The key to success is setting goals

Goal-setting in its own is an art, as it needs continuous rehearsal before one can fully yield and appreciate the benefits. Here are a few tips to effective goal-setting:

1. Write them down writing

The first and probably most important step to achieving your goals is to write them down. In a diary, on your phone, anywhere! Write them down in order as well. Preferably according to priority. Write them somewhere that is easily accessible so they act as a constant reminder of what you want.

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2. Be sincere with yourself

Make sure these goals you’ve written down are what you really want and within your capacity. Know your limits. Ask yourself each day, “what can I do today to get me closer to my ultimate goal?” when you get the answer, DO IT.

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Be specific when writing your goals. You shouldn’t just “want to be rich”, that’s not specific enough. Start step by step with reasonable and clear planning such as “in 3 months i would like to achieve X amount of money in my savings”. Write exactly what you want to achieve and when you want to achieve it. Set short-term goals and long-term goals as clearly as you can. Also be concise so you often have them all in mind.

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4. Tell a few close friends about it

Whether it’s family or your closest friends, tell them about your goals. The support you may get from them would help you and give you more confidence. They could also help by suggesting other ways to achieve your goals which you may not have realized. But don’t tell too many people as you could get carried away. Tell a few, maybe 2 or 3 close and positive people. It is important to keep positive people around you and stay focused.

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Once you have set a specific goal that you know you can achieve, hold it dearly. Refuse to be talked out of it. Do not be influenced by what others seem to be doing that’s working for them or people who tell you that you cannot do it. Stay focused.

6. Stay mindful of your progress

It is vital that you gauge your progress as often as you can. Whether by ticking boxes or cancelling your achievements. It enables you to complete short term goals and shows you how close or how far you really are from achieving long terms goals. This gives you a real view of your progress.

7. Set yourself up for success

Don’t distract yourself with other unnecessary things and don’t spend too much time in leisure. Discipline is very important if one is serious about achieving their goals. Put yourself in situations that will help you get a step closer to your goals. Places you go, people you meet, the things you discuss, what you wear and things you spend your time doing should all be pushing you to achieve your potential.

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Spare the rod?

Every parent  would normally have different methods of raising their children, but it is fair to say that whichever method used can fall under these two categories, they either spare the rod or don’t. Most African homes tend to follow the ever famous Bible quote Prov. 13: 24, which has been understood to imply “Spare the rod, spoil the child”, and therefore physically discipline their children until they get to an age were they naturally become more reasonable and responsible.

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This method is pretty much a form of conditioning which psychologists over the years have shown works with animals and infants. However, one has to consider the possible effects physical discipline could have on a child on the long run. Would it eventually make the child more disciplined or more violent to others? More stubborn or more compliant? A modern theory is that the long-term effects of whatever method parents use to train their children would depend significantly on that child’s temperament.

According to the American psychologist Jerome Kagan, a temperament refers to those aspects of an individual’s personality, such as introversion or extroversion, that are often regarded as innate rather than learned. Arguably the most common theory of temperaments would be that which suggests choleric, sanguine, melancholic and phlegmatic temperaments are fundamental. Having said that, shall all parents then carefully observe the temperament of their children as to discover the the more effective methods to use when raising that child?

If you say yes- that would require at least one parent spending adequate time with the infant. Time which most Child violence protests placardworking parents should but may not have. However the benefits may well be worth it. Take for example a choleric child and a sanguine child. Sanguines are said to be pleasure-seeking and sociable, therefore it may be more effective using reward and punishment for such a child than for a choleric child who is more stubborn and assertive.

On the other hand, if you say no- it means that you believe that both children should be disciplined the same way regardless. This would mean treating a melancholic child who is naturally prone to sadness with the same sternness used for a naturally stubborn child. The long term effects for the melancholic child may be devastating. Having said that, it’s naturally the troublesome and more stubborn children that would get more physical discipline than the others. This could prove just as the better behaved children, having observed the consequences of bad behaviour, are reinforced in their behaviour and are beaten less.sparetherod2sparetherod4

Whatever method one chooses to use to discipline their children, it is important that they do it solely for the good of the child. Using a child as a punching bag due to being frustrated with life or transferring anger from work on your child would do more damage than good to that child.

Be mindful of your actions – especially when dealing with children.

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