Giving or expecting valentine gifts anytime soon? Well, this time let’s do something entirely different for our loved ones. You may wish to wrap up your gifts nicely as planned but kindly have them tucked away for a moment as we undergo a short trip into our hearts.
To do this, you’ll have to be completely honest with each other in a non-judgmental and non-blame way.
Map out a plan to spend quality time with your loved one to totally open up your deepest thoughts and feelings about your relationship with him/her. Share memories from when you first met, the first times special things happened between both of you, how he/she made you feel, what attracted you to him/her, your hopes and dreams about each other, promises made to each other and much more.
Next, remind each other about the journey so far, about how well the relationship has fared, how well you were able to keep the promises made or not, remember the challenging moments, remember the success stories, remember the times you almost gave up or when you broke up and made up again, remember the conversations, the special and not so special moments too.
Now, to the present moment, give yourself a sincere answer to this question;
Has this relationship made me a better person?
Sincerely analyze the current state of your relationship,
Are you satisfied with it?
Ask each other questions about your relationship, this is the time to search deep within your hearts and resolve every form of strife, misunderstanding and differences between both of you. The following questions might be of help:
- Have I changed in any way from the man/woman you fell in love with?
- What particular aspects have I faltered?
- What areas have I lived up to expectations?
- What are those things that you cherish about us?
- How can you help me improve and love you better?
- What are the exact things you want more of?
- What are the exact things you want me to stop doing?
- How can I please you more?
This will open your eyes to many things you may have taken for granted about each other and if properly done, this appraisal can be life transforming for both of you. Take it a step further by noting down the action points from this powerful conversation with your loved one and delve into action immediately. This will make you more conscious of how you treat each other every day.
You can have conversations like this on a monthly basis, yearly or on your anniversaries.
You can now proceed to opening your gifts for each other and enjoy a beautiful Valentine together.
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Happy Valentine’s day from all of us at Mobile Heath Consult.