A song writer once said, “where you are loved is where you belong”
There is a “home” feeling that everyone craves for regardless of your background or socio-economic status and as we go through the challenges of everyday life in various settings, we all want to go back to a place of safety, comfort, peace and above all, love. This desire is quite common to everyone; husbands or fathers, wives or mothers as well as children equally desire to always go back to a place of rest whenever they talk about going home and it is much more than just the comfort or beautification of the house or availability of shelter, food, gadgets or luxury. It is in the presence of love, harmony, peace, togetherness and more. However, this may not always be the experience for everyone. Although everyone seem to have their own unique picture of the perfect home, the common factors include, a sense of belongingness, feeling of love, a place to feel secure, a place to be yourself and to feel wanted regardless of your shortcomings, this place is called home.
As a matter of fact, there is absolutely no perfect home or perfect family. You simply make the most of what you’ve got! It can be quite disturbing how people tend to focus on and invest more on the things that don’t really matter so much when it comes to building the home while neglecting the most important ones of making the home a safe haven for the entire family wherein everyone can feel loved and wanted. Furthermore, parents, in a bid to instill discipline and success in their children, may often end up using certain approaches that can result in emotionally pushing the children far away from them although they may be in close physical proximity within the home. This can lead to defiant behaviours on the part of the children and a distorted perception of what the home should be. Such children may be found to hate going home and would rather be interested in some other friend’s home or just going away.
In all of these, we all have our parts to play in making our home a place to be desired. The following tips will be helpful,
- Love your family unconditionally
- Be helpful to one another
- Be there for one another
- Support one another
- Spend time together
- Do things together
- Go places together
- Have respect for one another
- Don’t talk down on any family member
- Be approachable
- Be willing to improve and make things better
- Trust your family and be trustworthy
- Improve communication, let everyone be allowed to talk and bring up issues that may arise and possibly cause misunderstandings
- Let everyone contribute in their own little way
- Dialogue with the children, discuss with them before making major decisions, allow them makes their choice on matters that directly concern them
- Be mindful of one another
When building your home, paint the walls with unconditional love because it is good to surround yourself with love. Beautify your home with peace and rest. Nurture your family members with trust and togetherness. Furnish your home with forgiveness. Fill your home with laughter, joy and contentment. Hang cherished memories as pictures on the wall and make room for imperfections and improvements. Above all, enjoy your home and let it be sweet too.
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