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WHAT IF I FAIL AGAIN?

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Failure is the opportunity to begin again, only more intelligently. – Henry Ford.

Are you scared of taking on a challenge all because you think you might not succeed? Are you holding yourself back from starting that project because you are scared you might fail? Or are you just so afraid of failing that it causes you to be stuck or moving on? Or you hesitate from trying, thinking you are not good enough?

Everyone has experienced failure at one point or another but that doesn’t have to hinder you from trying neither does it have to be the end of it. More often than not, to succeed at times we need to have failed at a point. Failure is a way of learning to think of better ways to achieve our set goals in order to come out with excellent outcomes better than we ever thought.

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Funny it may seem that what a person may categorize as failure may just be an opportunity to learn for another. The thought of failing can be scary, true; but when you are so scared of failing that you allow it stop you from doing something that will bring your progress, hence, causing you to be stuck and hinder you from progressing, you are experiencing what is referred to as ‘Atychiphobia’ – fear of failure.

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A person is said have phobia when he/she has an extreme, unreasonable or irrational fear of something or situations as a result of being exposed to certain situations, objects, places or creatures. A person is said to have ‘Atychiphobia’ if he/she is experiencing persistent, recurrent and irrational fear of failure.

Phobias like ‘Atychiphobia’ can be so extreme that they completely paralyze you, making it difficult to carry on with your tasks at home, school, or work. You may even miss out on important opportunities in your life, both personally and professionally.

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Failure does one of two things: it will either keep you stuck or get you moving!

CAUSES OF ATYCHIPHOBIA

It may be difficult to say what the real cause behind one’s fear of failure is but one is likely to have a fear of failure if:

  1. You have watched other people fail and perhaps not able to recover from it. This is called ‘Observational Learning Experience’.
  2. You heard or read stories about other people’s experience and as a result, you developed fear of failure. This is called ‘Informational Learning Experience’.
  3. You have had personal past experiences of failure that resulted in serious consequences; for example, losing a job.

SYMPTOMS OF ATYCHIPHOBIA

The symptoms range in severity from mildly severe to extremely severe. You may experience some of these symptoms if have a fear of failure:-

  1. You may feel reluctant to explore new things or ideas or take on challenging tasks.
  2. When you have a low self-esteem or lack of confidence in yourself.
  3. Uttering negative statements like ‘I am not good enough to take on that project’.
  4. When you are fond of procrastinating; that is, postponing your set out goals because you too scared of starting.
  5. If you are only willing to try as long as you certain that the outcome will be positive – perfectionism.

Other symptoms may include;

  1. Intense feeling of panic or anxiety.
  2. A serious need to escape a situation that produces the fear.
  3. Feeling detached from yourself.
  4. When you feel you don’t have control over a situation
  5. When you generally feel powerless over your fear.

HOW TO OVERCOME YOUR FEAR OF FAILURE

  • If you are experiencing Atychiphobia, the first step to overcoming it is to believe in yourself that you are good enough and try again.
  • It’s best to seek the help of a professional, a psychotherapist or perhaps a Certified Psychologist for Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). This will give you exposure to the tools that you need to overcome your fear of failure.

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It’s Up To You To Flourish!

Often times, when people think about health, they may instinctively have the idea of physical health alone in mind such that if a person is not seriously ill, then, such a person may be termed healthy. However, this is actually not entirely true because health in itself is an encompassing word, comprising of all round wellness. This indicates that being healthy ideally means being at a state of complete physical, mental and social wellbeing and not just the absence of sickness. There should be a balance in all aspects of an individual’s functioning leading to a state of optimal human functioning in which one is thriving physically, mentally and socially. This is the state of flourishing. This also does not indicate the absence of difficult times, rather, it implies that in spite of the hard times, such individuals are resilient that is, having the ability to bounce back no matter the difficulty they encounter. Some other characteristics of individuals that are flourishing include:

  • They choose to dwell on positive emotions rather than dwelling on negative ones which in turn affects how they feel. This is why individuals that are flourishing often tend to feel positive because they choose to dwell on positive emotions. On the other hand, when people dwell on negative emotions, they tend to feel negative most of the time. It is also true that our thoughts become our feelings and our feelings become our actions. Wouldn’t you rather choose to dwell on positive emotions so that you can feel positive and act positively?
  • They have self-love because they have accepted themselves with their strengths as well as weaknesses and have chosen to love themselves regardless. It is important to note that people who love themselves are not perfect but rather, they have cultivated self-acceptance and the willingness to continue to improve on themselves as they grow in life.
  • They have Love for others and this is simply because they have love for themselves in the first place then they can extend that love and positive regard to others as well.
  • They have a healthy self-esteem not because they are flawless but because they appreciate themselves and understand their uniqueness. Therefore, they are assertive and confident in all they do.
  • They are open minded to the point of view of others as opposed to being closed minded and they are willing to learn from every experience. They are also willing to unlearn what is not helpful to them by replacing them with more productive ideas and more positive lifestyle.
  • They are content with themselves while being intentional about their visions, goals and objectives in life, they also have an understanding of what it means to enjoy every moment.
  • They engage in healthy relationships that are mutually benefiting and fulfilling. They also seek to add value to the lives of others and their relationships are more productive as well.
  • They are able to find happiness within themselves and spread it to others. They don’t rely on external factors to make them happy, rather, they find happiness in themselves, the kind of happiness that no one can take away from them. It is true happiness!
  • They are optimistic and hopeful about the future because they take out time to carefully plan their future and envision it, they become more hopeful and secure about the future. They are also able to figure out alternatives if or when their plans don’t turn out as expected.
  • They are grateful and express gratitude for everything, the popular saying that whatever you appreciate, appreciates is so apt because gratitude is so powerful that it enriches our lives.
  • They take positive steps to ensure optimal physical wellbeing, a positive lifestyle is typical for individuals that are flourishing as they ensure proper diet, regular exercises, adequate sleep and other necessary aspects of physical functioning.
  • They live a life of vitality all round such individuals are found to be energetic and strong as a result of the positive lifestyle that they have chosen to live by.

When we take these positive steps in our everyday lives, we begin to flourish as we grow in life no matter the gravity of life’s challenges, we can bounce back to flourishing at all times. I choose to flourish, what about you?

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Love at First Sight

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“Wouldn’t it be powerful if you fell in love with yourself so deeply that you would do just about anything if you knew it would make you happy?

This is precisely how much life loves you and wants you to nurture yourself.

The deeper you love yourself, the more the universe will affirm your worth.

Then you can enjoy a lifelong love affair that brings you

the richest fulfillment from inside out”

– Alan Cohen

Thank God for mirrors! It is a wonderful tool that can show you a view of what you look like physically but it is limited because it really can’t show you what you have on your inside.

No matter what you have struggled with in the past from having a low self-esteem to feeling inferior, feeling unwanted or ugly… the moment you begin to accept yourself, refuse to seek/depend on people’s approval of you, develop a healthy self-esteem and gradually love yourself one step at a time, you’ll notice that overtime that same mirror will reveal a more beautiful you!

But do you know that it’s actually not the mirror, it’s you….

because you now accept yourself and love yourself more, everything begins to align to the new perception of yourself EVEN YOUR MIRROR!

Here is how to begin loving yourself

  • Start by being aware of something good about yourself, it may be as little as your hair texture or length, your nails, your eyes or any other body parts that you see as attractive. It may not necessarily be a body part it could be a character trait, the way you smile or your personality….
  • Next, start appreciating that good aspect then you’ll realize that your eyes will be opened to see other beautiful aspects of you too. You’ll be shocked at how much beauty you had locked up all these years.
  • Remember those parts of you that you were uncomfortable with? Start seeing them in a better way and if you feel a need to work on them like exercising more and eating healthier then you can do so, BUT, do so for yourself so that you can be healthy and not for someone else. Remember that on your journey to achieving your goals, you need to love yourself every step of the way.
  • Give yourself a second chance by forgiving yourself easily when you go wrong. Be optimistic and believe in yourself always.
  • Be affirmative by speaking positive words concerning yourself “I can do this” “I will be the best me today” I am attractive”, I am a valuable person” etc.

When you love yourself, you create your own happiness. Click HERE to learn more about creating Happiness.

Girl-mirrorWhen you wake up in the morning, take a look into the mirror and let your reflection be the first sight you fall in love with every day. Don’t forget that your relationship with others will be more fulfilling when you have a fulfilling relationship with your own self.

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