Failure is the opportunity to begin again, only more intelligently. – Henry Ford.
Are you scared of taking on a challenge all because you think you might not succeed? Are you holding yourself back from starting that project because you are scared you might fail? Or are you just so afraid of failing that it causes you to be stuck or moving on? Or you hesitate from trying, thinking you are not good enough?
Everyone has experienced failure at one point or another but that doesn’t have to hinder you from trying neither does it have to be the end of it. More often than not, to succeed at times we need to have failed at a point. Failure is a way of learning to think of better ways to achieve our set goals in order to come out with excellent outcomes better than we ever thought.
Funny it may seem that what a person may categorize as failure may just be an opportunity to learn for another. The thought of failing can be scary, true; but when you are so scared of failing that you allow it stop you from doing something that will bring your progress, hence, causing you to be stuck and hinder you from progressing, you are experiencing what is referred to as ‘Atychiphobia’ – fear of failure.
A person is said have phobia when he/she has an extreme, unreasonable or irrational fear of something or situations as a result of being exposed to certain situations, objects, places or creatures. A person is said to have ‘Atychiphobia’ if he/she is experiencing persistent, recurrent and irrational fear of failure.
Phobias like ‘Atychiphobia’ can be so extreme that they completely paralyze you, making it difficult to carry on with your tasks at home, school, or work. You may even miss out on important opportunities in your life, both personally and professionally.
Failure does one of two things: it will either keep you stuck or get you moving!
CAUSES OF ATYCHIPHOBIA
It may be difficult to say what the real cause behind one’s fear of failure is but one is likely to have a fear of failure if:
- You have watched other people fail and perhaps not able to recover from it. This is called ‘Observational Learning Experience’.
- You heard or read stories about other people’s experience and as a result, you developed fear of failure. This is called ‘Informational Learning Experience’.
- You have had personal past experiences of failure that resulted in serious consequences; for example, losing a job.
SYMPTOMS OF ATYCHIPHOBIA
The symptoms range in severity from mildly severe to extremely severe. You may experience some of these symptoms if have a fear of failure:-
- You may feel reluctant to explore new things or ideas or take on challenging tasks.
- When you have a low self-esteem or lack of confidence in yourself.
- Uttering negative statements like ‘I am not good enough to take on that project’.
- When you are fond of procrastinating; that is, postponing your set out goals because you too scared of starting.
- If you are only willing to try as long as you certain that the outcome will be positive – perfectionism.
Other symptoms may include;
- Intense feeling of panic or anxiety.
- A serious need to escape a situation that produces the fear.
- Feeling detached from yourself.
- When you feel you don’t have control over a situation
- When you generally feel powerless over your fear.
HOW TO OVERCOME YOUR FEAR OF FAILURE
- If you are experiencing Atychiphobia, the first step to overcoming it is to believe in yourself that you are good enough and try again.
- It’s best to seek the help of a professional, a psychotherapist or perhaps a Certified Psychologist for Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). This will give you exposure to the tools that you need to overcome your fear of failure.
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